Words of Encouragement
Every Child Longs To Hear
- I just love to have you around
Sometimes it's easy to focus on the negative behaviour of children and it can feel like you're constantly on your child's back. There needs to be a balance of positive and negative guidance. Although children need to have discipline and boundaries they also need to feel love and affection and to be told those simple words; I love you, I'm proud of you or well done.
To Parents From Their Children
Don't be afraid to be firm with me, I prefer it, it makes me feel more secure.
Don't make me feel smaller than I am, it only makes me act stupidly.
Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it, I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
Don't make me feel my mistakes are sins, it upsets my sense of value.
Don't be too upset when I say ''I hate you'' it isn't you I hate but the power to thwart me.
Don't nag, if you do I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
Don't tax my honesty too much, I am easily frightened into telling lies.
Don't be inconsistent, that completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
Don't put me off when I start asking questions, if you do you will find I stop asking questions and seek information elsewhere.
Don't tell me my fears are silly, they are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
Don't ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologise to me, an honest apology makes me feel quite warm towards you.
Don't forget I love experimenting, I couldn't get on without it, so please try to put up with it.
Don't forget how quickly I am growing up it must be very difficult for you to keep up with me, but please try.